Healing the Sexual Legacy

Lets face it – on some level we’re all in need of some healing around sex. No matter how free and uninhibited we think we are, everyone has some pain, shame or insecurity lurking in the background connected with their sexuality. It’s just one of those unfortunate side-effects of being a modern human being trying to break free of generations of repression.

Men Need Touch Too

We may think women are more touchy-feely than men—being more in need of hugs and non-sexual intimacy— but my experience has shown that this bias is not a fair representation of how things really are. How much of what we expect, and therefore see, is down to social conditioning and upbringing? Do we encourage our sons to be physically affectionate? We may think it’s cute when we see two girls hugging, but what about boys? How comfortable is society with men being affectionate to each-other (or to women), without assuming there’s a sexual element to it?

Can You Feel Me?

With the widespread availability of various forms of bodywork and psychotherapy, along with countless published volumes by the likes of Reich, Lowen and others intrigued by how the body reflects the mind and the emotions, it’s perhaps a little strange that there isn’t more mainstream awareness of body armoring—with the fact that the body can, and does, hold memory and trauma in a very physical way.